Being told I had cancer everything turned into a blur and I really did not remember much of what the consultant said but I will never forget the look in his eyes or the fact he took my hand to tell me. I knew life was to change just the way I did on September 11th 2001.
For various reasons I couldn't do chemo or radiotherapy so being told I had cancer was actually 12 days after my surgery and in fact cancer free, so mind boggling really. But it being the first day out of bed and struggling with an uncooperative leg which still is today I was beginning to see how life would change, getting home meant needing carers for everyday tasks and the fatigue was and is awful. I'd also need scans and appointments every 3 months which would cause scanxiety around the results.
Maybe it's something that only those who have experienced it first or second via immediate family but the cancerversary can cause a lot of mixed emotions some may have dark thoughts which should be acknowledged as being ok while some celebrate it as a sign of life and continued survival. Others let. It pass by as another day, each way is equally acceptable and those around them should acknowledge their way of marking the day.
I recently had my cancerversary and found it really difficult possibly because I had a letter which means possibly more spine surgery which is a risky undertaking, but otherwise I just let it pass with it much acknowledgement.
Whether you celebrate it, acknowledge it with a. Duvet fort or simply ignore it, keep doing what's best for you.